How to Fall in Love with Anyone

How to Fall in Love with Anyone An Insightful, Charming, And Absolutely Fascinating Memoir From The Author Of The Popular New York Times Essay, To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This, One Of The Top Five Most Popular New York Times Pieces Of 2015 Explores The Romantic Myths We Create And Explains How They Limit Our Ability To Achieve And Sustain Intimacy.What Really Makes Love Last Does Love Ever Work The Way We Say It Does In Movies And Books And Facebook Posts Or Does Obsessing Over Those Love Stories Hurt Our Real Life Relationships When Her Parents Divorced After A Twenty Eight Year Marriage And Her Own Ten Year Relationship Ended, Those Were The Questions That Mandy Len Catron Wanted To Answer.In A Series Of Candid, Vulnerable, And Wise Essays That Takes A Closer Look At What It Means To Love Someone, Be Loved, And How We Present Our Love To The World, Catron Deconstructs Her Own Personal Canon Of Love Stories She Delves All The Way Back To 1944, When Her Grandparents First Met In A Coal Mining Town In Appalachia, To Her Own Dating Life As A Professor In Vancouver, Drawing Insights From Her Fascinating Research Into The Universal Psychology, Biology, History, And Literature Of Love She Uses Biologists Research Into Dopamine Triggers To Ask Whether The Need To Love Is An Innate Human Drive She Uses Literary Theory To Show Why We Prefer Certain Kinds Of Love Stories She Urges Us To Question The Unwritten Scripts We Follow In Relationships And Looks Into Where Those Scripts Come From In The First Place And She Tells The Story Of How She Decided To Test A Psychology Experiment That She D Read About Where The Goal Was To Create Intimacy Between Strangers Using A List Of Thirty Six Questions And Ended Up In The Surreal Situation Of Having Millions Of People Following Her Brand New Relationship.In How To Fall In Love With Anyone Catron Flips The Script On Love And Offers A Deeply Personal, And Universal, Investigation.

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  • Hardcover
  • 238 pages
  • How to Fall in Love with Anyone
  • Mandy Len Catron
  • 22 May 2018
  • 9781501137440

10 thoughts on “How to Fall in Love with Anyone

  1. says:

    I let the title for this collection of essays fool me for a second there, thinking it would be some self help junk about the magic of love and all its promises It s far from it, actually I hated this way of talking about love, but I caught myself doing it, too The right choice, the right person, the right kind of love, the one Was it moral rightness or narrative rightness a good person or a good story In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, Catron deconstructs her own personal canon of love stories She delves all the way back to 1944, when her grandparents first met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver, drawing insights from her fascinating research into the universal psychology, biology, history, and literature of love.Contrary to my first impression, Catron delves into the realities not fantasies of loving and being loved The harms of romantic comedies in painting an unrealistic view of healthy relationships When I tell people I think love stories make us worse at being in love, they are quick to agree The author s family history on love, compatibility, and divorce Plus, there s an emphasise on making the research inclusive with including LGBTQIA relationships.However, I do have to note that How to Fall in Love with Anyone wasn t a particularly l...

  2. says:

    This review is also published here s just make this clear up front this is NOT a self help or non fiction book, it is a memoir I ve seen a couple of reviews that express disappointment that this wasn t a list of helpful tips to find love Those books are out there this just isn t one of them.Having said that, as someone who recently went through some epic heartbreak, I did find this book really useful in offering a bit of perspective and oodles and oodles of HOPE.Mandy Len Catron shot to fame in 2015 when her essay To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This was published in the New York Times Modern Love column In it, she details an experiment she undertook with an acquaintance full disclosure an unattached acquaintance who she fancied and who clearly fancied her , where they asked each other a list of questions formulated by psychologist Arthur Aron some 20 years earlier, which were designed to make two people fall in love As it happens, Mandy and the guy did end up falling in love and are as far as I know still together.But this book isn t simply a repetition of that well known column it is an in depth...

  3. says:

    This is an enjoyable and thoughtful book part memoir, part essay collection The author reflects on love through the lens of her own experiences and those of her parents and grandparents, but also discusses the subject broadly, referencing scientific research and analyzing books, movies, and fairy tales She writes well and candidly, digging into the complexities of relationships rather than trying to prescribe one size fits all advice or hand out easy answers It is in some ways a very personal book, particularly as the author discusses the end of her 10 year relationship, but she keeps it classy In discussing her relationships, she writes about how she felt and behaved, rather than dishing on her exes.Rather than writing a traditional review, I m going to list some of the ideas in the book that interested me This book began with a Modern Love article, about a relationship that started with the author and an acquaintance asking each other a series of questions that made a couple fall in love in a lab experiment But the title is misleading the questions may not have been designed to create rom...

  4. says:

    A really enjoyable read I love thinking and reading about love I ve previously enjoyed On Love and The Course of Love, Alain de Botton s offerings on the topic , so this was a really thought provoking one for me...

  5. says:

    FAV QUOTES In love, we fall.That s how I fell in love with him in college, when we slept belly to back, my nose tucked against his neck, when the daytime was just a placeholder for the night.As far as I could tell, rightness and wrongness were only ever apparent in retrospect.If I believed love was mundane, I thought, maybe I could take away some of its power.Even if we didn t always like each other that much, even if we forgot our promises to be kind and patient, it felt good to know someone as well as we knew each other It felt good to be known.Maybe there aren t many stories about ambivalent breakups because such stories do little to confirm our assumptions about the power of love Instead, they render love an ordinary experience.I think many of us want to believe that love cannot be known, that the mysteries of the heart have to remain mysterious.A better version of love did exist.My job was not to choose a good person to love, but rather to be good to the person I d chosen.Deciding to break up, I thought, was like learning a star had burned out in a distant galaxy, even though you can still see it in the sky You know something has i...

  6. says:

    A very interesting but not quite fascinating memoir essay collection about love, dating, and relationships She writes about the dissolution of the college relationship she spent her twenties in, her parents and grandmother s marriages, love stories in Western pop culture, and her newest relationship and its catalyst of 36 questions to discuss to fall in love with anyone the original essay which was published in NY Times s Modern Love column I appreciated that she discussed...

  7. says:

    I fell in love with this book.

  8. says:

    I had this book for a week and recommended it to than 10 people before I had even finished it, which I think should be enough to convince you to add it to your To Read list immediately I knew about Mandy Len Catron from her 2015 viral piece in the Modern Love section of The New York Times I loved the article I forced my friends to do the first chunk of the 36 questions with each other during the first night of a trip when they all met for the first time While Catron s pieces for the Times are fantastic, this book is something else It s a better version of Aziz Ansari s Modern Romance and a personal version of Moira Weigel s Labor of Love How to Fall in Love with Anyone details how the author has mythologized her parents and grandparents love stories and the effect that has had upon her own conceptualization and approaches to romantic love She spends a chapter detailing the cultural scripts that Western culture passes down about love through romantic comedies or through what we re told embodies a good relationship , who even deserves a good relationship, and discusses that while we re told what the best end product is, we aren t often taught about how to love others well In fact, I think this book could be aptly titled How to Love Better, in order to better convey its contents and to be alluring than the current title The book made me think a lot about how we could all be better to each ot...

  9. says:

    Ugh I am so on the fence about this book It falls into the same category for me as Eat, Pray, Love and Wild While I had my own issues with those two books really, who can afford to disappear for an extended period of time to get their shit together , this one was a bit different Mandy Len Catron writes about love in a series of essays That is the first difference This book isn t meant as one continuous discussion of a particular time She bounces around to different points in her life, but the organization is still linear I suppose I m on the fence about this book for two reasons First has everything to do with the author s tone The second has to do with me Catron s tone throughout the book strives to be academic, but I couldn t help but feel at times it was a bit whining and needy I did find interesting her reactions to love and to dating She, like a lot of modern women, myself included, reacted to love and dating the way she thought everyone expected her to and not in a way that was genuine to who she was We have spent so much time being told how to act and what to expect that we conform our thoughts to outside forces and don t allow that inside, we might feel differently Most importantly, even if we do recognize that we feel differently about marriage, love commitment, etc., we do not feel comfortable or that it is ok with society that we show any...

  10. says:

    Let s be clear The author doesn t, in fact, tell you how to fall in love with anyone Remember it s a memoir Catron s voice quickly won me over, and I entered into her story much as I would into that of a friend, stopping occasionally as I read to nod my head or question her choices For me, the meat of the book is in its second half, as Catron unravels the threads of the stories we buy into about what love should look like, and the ways in which we sabotage perfectly good relationships by comparing them to the conventional tropes of happily ever after I especially welcomed Catron s desire to broaden the notion of family She suggests using the word to describe our reality, rather than struggling to fit our reality into the standard definition It s almost impossible to become an adult without dragging along with you a heavy load of assumptions a...

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